Comments on: Todd, sorted.

By: Zoe

Zoe — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 16:00:42 +0000

Erik – I only own 1/3 of the house. The Ex really got a bargain out of me.

By: Erik Smit

Erik Smit — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 13:59:36 +0000

So, when I asked how you are I thought why not read it myself, she’ll still have this blog, right?

So, as to SAD light – it’s not a bad idea to get one at all. Esther has had one for a couple years now and it does help.
What helps even better is her new job – she is now a postman (eh, women) for a few hours every day. Which means that she finally gets the daylight she needs in winter. For me it wouldn’t work – I’m fine with the dark but not with working outside in the rain, personally.

Todd-wise, I’m sorry to read things had to go this way. I’m in no right to make any further comment about it since I know nothing about the situation but reading what you are writing here I have a feeling chances are your relation will eventually be better if you’re not around each other for a while.

Selling the house, are you? 100K, are you serious? If a house like yours (still the one I was in once eons ago?) was available for 100K in this area, I would buy it today. Unfortunately we can’t find anything decent under 200K, and we can’t even afford 200K, so we keep renting, which is way cheaper in our case. Good luck finding something good!

erik

By: Richard

Richard — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 10:47:54 +0000

Hey, comments far too often accurately reflect their own author’s less redeeming characteristics. Fortunately, I know I’m not a cunt.

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 14:47:31 +0000

I hope it all works out for you and for Todd = I know what you mean – it’s so difficult when they have the choice of two homes to live – must be very tempting to think about the grass being greener. …. I agree the appeal is not insignificant, but then neither is losing your child before they are ready to leave. Just pretend he’s at boarding school Lx

By: tricia

tricia — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 22:41:36 +0000

Glad to hear you have a peaceful home again. I know it’s hard & hurtful but take heart from Viviane’s experience. I bet when Todd is 27 he will look back in horror at the way he behaved & you will both have a chuckle about it.
I have been thinking about a SAD light too – I can put up with the cold but the short days are sooo depressing.

By: Sewmouse

Sewmouse — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 20:37:07 +0000

Before you invest in a SAD light, try purchasing an inexpensive “timer” – one of those things that plugs into the wall, and turns a lamp on and off. They’re really really cheap here, and I find that using one to turn on a lamp in the bedroom about 1/2 an hour before I want to wake up makes a huge difference for me.

(I also have one downstairs that turns on a lamp about an hour before I get home so that I never come home to a dark house.)

By: 3limes

3limes — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 16:59:12 +0000

I had suffered terribly from SAD. Then I moved to the permanent sunshine. Which isn’t really a solution for you, I know. Anyway Uganda has a different sort of SAD doesn’t it?

By: Pat

Pat — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 10:31:10 +0000

Give up the guilt trip re Todd and enjoy the respite.
Your Christmas list is sorted: a Sad light and warm gloves.

By: guyana gyal

guyana gyal — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 10:16:23 +0000

Now Todd’s father will have to deal with Todd’s anger. And as Viviane says…

By: Gesundheit

Gesundheit — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 03:57:08 +0000

I really like it. Thanks for your post.

By: Blazing

Blazing — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:24:49 +0000

Good to see you back, Zoe.

By: Keith

Keith — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 23:42:04 +0000

I, like you, suffer from SAD. It’s made worse by the fact that I live alone and some days in the winter when I can’t get out I never see a living soul from dark dawn until dark evening! I bought a lightbox (10,000 lumens)costing €93, but it didn’t seem to work. All the time it was on I worried about the cost of running it and that made me even more depressed.

I sold it on eBay in the end.

Todd? Pffft!

Off topic – The “Merrie Monk” has closed and poor John G is inconsolable. Pop over to his blog and and give him your condolences.

By: Bob In Pacifica

Bob In Pacifica — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 16:13:31 +0000

Vitamin D. If not a SAD light get lots of any light. Full spectrum light, light in your face. Stretch out on the couch with your eyes closed and a bright light shining in your face for twenty minutes. During the day get out for walks in the daylight. Exercise of any kind is helpful.

By: viviane

viviane — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 13:16:31 +0000

Glad to see you’re back too. Normally Todd will grow out of this current crisis and you will build a new and nice relationship. Long story short, my elder son went to live with his father when he was 11 after a one year war, I was heartbroken, but actually all the hardest teenager’s years were spent at his father’s place and I had only the best role. Now he is 27 and we get along fine. It is true that we cannot stop loving them.
Fingers crossed for your interview and wishing you the best for the holidays and the future in general.
(and lost gloves are not the end of the world)

By: Ms McDermott

Ms McDermott — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 21:33:11 +0000

Zoe, take Vitamin D. It (allegedly) helps with SAD.